Villvindel Hypnotherapy

This story is about a lady we can call Dora. When Dora grew up, she was often rejected as a child, at times her mother would use silent treatment to punish her. Her parents would also use physical violence, such as spanking, as child-rearing tools. Her mother even told her that she was an unwanted child. Dora grew up with the fundamental belief that she was unworthy and unlovable in all kinds of ways.

Now imagine a large swimming pool. All of us humans are standing around this swimming pool. We each have a bag of pebbles or rocks, that here symbolise what we bring to the social table, so to speak. Our pebbles are our words, our actions, even our thoughts, our body language, our tone of voice and so on.

At all times we are throwing our pebbles into the pool. It is impossible for us to not throw the pebbles as long as we are engaging with being alive on planet Earth. Every time a pebble falls into the water, it creates rings that travel through the pool.

Dora, standing beside the pool and throwing pebbles has the personal experience that her pebbles don’t create rings. She believes in her unworthiness, and that because she is unworthy of love and acceptance, her rocks don’t create rings in the water.

Ignored again and again by her parents, she can really see that there are no rings in that pool coming from her pebbles. Imagine that feeling. You cannot influence your matrix at all, nobody cares.

Later in life, Dora still carries the subconscious belief that her pebbles don’t affect the pool. But now she’s an adult, and she carries all the wounds of her childhood with her. Her childhood wounds lead her to often lashing out at her surroundings. And the belief that her pebbles don’t matter in the pool, gives her the feeling that her words and actions don’t affect anything anyways, so she may just as well unleash her frustrations on her surroundings.

But the other people standing around the pool – they both see and feel the rings of those pebbles very clearly. To Dora, who can’t see her rings, only the rings of other people, the reactions she gets at times baffle and mystify her, and at times she becomes very frustrated by other people’s reactions. Drama follows.

We all have pebbles and rocks that we throw into the collective pool all the time. Take a look at your proverbial bag of pebbles – what does it contain? Can you describe your pebbles? Are you aware of all your pebbles – or do some of them come directly from your subconscious? What is your contribution? Do you throw your pebbles with intent and consciousness?

Are you aware of how powerful you are?

Understanding our «pebbles» and our contribution to our social matrix can be more challenging than we first expect. Hypnotherapy with Villvindel Hypnotherapy offers you tools to explore the matter in depth in order to gain clarity and a deeper understanding of yourself.